If you’re ever in a fight with your girlfriend or boyfriend, you’ll know that it’s very hard to resolve something because both of you wants to prove to the other person that you’re right and they’re wrong, everybody wants to prove a point but in fact you’re making the matter worse. The most important thing to remember is you have to compromise and give up your ego for the one your love.
I’m not taking sides or anything but this goes to all the guys, sometimes we have to just give in and you want to know why? I understand that being a man means that you have to be in control and what you say is important, however not every women think like that, the more you fight with them, the more they’re going to try to prove that you’re wrong even if you’re right. The key here is to keep silent and let them let it all out. Once they do that, they will start to listen to you because there’s nothing else for them to say but.
Learn from your mistakes and be supportive as to why your significant other acts the way she/he acts. Why is he being so hard-headed? Why is she not listening to me but instead yelling and screaming? Be calm and try to find out what makes them tick, is it because of past relationships? is it because of family matters? maybe she’s on her period? Yes, you could find a counselor with a masters in social work degree to help mediate any domestic crisis, or you could use your noggin to think outside the box and reason how your behavior and boundaries can encourage your spouse’s. You have to emphasize with each other and be able to recognize that his/her feelings comes first. When you’re in a relationship, there is no more ‘I’ anymore. You have another person that you have to think and care about; not just yourself. Of course, everyone can benefit from counseling at some point, even if it’s just to get some long held thoughts off your chest. Many couples find that therapy can help them organize their feelings and better communicate hard pressed emotions.
If the same issues ever come up again, be sure to let each other know in a calmly manner that the most important thing is to move on and learn how to compromise so that the fight wouldn’t even get started. Just remember that as long as you love each other, then all things can be resolved.
He that falls in love with himself will have no rivals. – Benjamin Franklin